I married an Egyptian man and my questions are endless...

Q: I'm an Asian married to an Egyptian man. Why is his views so stereotype and he would always refere to his mother of sister when it comes to things about the house or how o cook or ake care of the baby. He will always say "my sister does it like this and my mother is nto dong that blah blah blah". he always thinks he is right and he is so particular about how I dress even if i dress modestly. He gets mad when I say that he is wrong. He will never accept my opinion. He is very rude and will always be dicriminating of other nationalities even my own! Don;t get me wrong, he is not always that bad but when he is in a bad mood, you would totally hate him. Why is his mind so different from all the others... Is it really an Egyptian mentality to act like a king in their house? Is it an Egyptian attitude to make the women do everything in the house while he sits and watches TV after both of us came from work and I had to take care of the baby and cook dinner (not to mention the laundry. Are they really that thrifty (kanjus) when it comes to spending money (even on basic necessities).. OR IS IT JUST MY HUSBAND? and he will always listen only to ARABIC MUSIC... he will only accept his ways and not open to change... he never adapts to my culture.. i shudl always adapt to hi which is so unfair... when he says something offensive he will nto say sorry and will even push it that he is RIGHt or he claims to not have done anything worng and will tell me im crazy!?! we got married because i got pregnant... i know i should not expect much having said the situation but EVEN... i didnt force him to marry me, he said it's either we abort the baby or if i am keeping the baby we should get married.... i got stuck there so even i myself was forced to marry him... dont get me wrong we love each other now (well at least thru time we learned how to!) and the main problem is id ont uderstand his attitude. my question is is this normal for an average egyptian guy or is it just him? because i really find it irritating coming from a very liberated culture... there are some things i can tolerate but 80% are just way over the line...

A: The easy answer to this is = YES (sorry guys). But surely they do mellow in time. Mine was just like that & sometimes still is. I think its the culture, as he's gotten better since we moved to England. He grew up as a prince, only having to click his fingers & tea would arrive via his mum. Will get back to write more..............sorry, had washing to see to. Its not Egyptian mentality as such, but as the eldest son, he grew up being waited on hand & foot, then came the nasty English wife lol, who makes him DO something around the flat. Its hard for him to adjust to the change, i see that & i love him to bits, but boy do i get mad. I work full time too, then run round him. What does he do ? He gets home from work & sleeps till his food is ready, then lets me wash up as well. My friends say to me " well you must have known, marrying someone from that kind of culture", but it takes some getting used to. Be assured, he will mellow in time, just dont push him, patiently give him ideas & let him make up his own mind. He will come to think of the ideas as his own, & things will be easier. Mine now hoovers !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! haha. @ My hubby also refuses to accept when he's wrong, & he'll turn it round so i get the blame. Mostly i just let it go, for peace, but i am older & more world wise, & i cant let some things go. @ I just wanted to add, there are European men who have the same attitude, who never help out, they sit around, or go to the pub (at least our Egyptian men wont go out & get drunk all the time), talk about women's work, & expect you to wait on them. I know who i'd rather have. @ lol, watch those thumbs down, hit a nerve or something ?

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